I was recently told by a real-life friend of mine that also happens to be a digg.com member that I am essentially the Digg version of a bad friend.
What he pointed out was that, on Digg, I am moderately self absorbed, don’t contribute much and when it comes down to it, no one would want to be my friend. I pondered his comments and realized that he is absolutely right. But, why?
After a lot of thought, I realized that my digg.com actions mimic my real life actions.
I have never really been good friends to many people at any given time. I am basically just not good at it. I really like people as a whole and I enjoy communicating and collaborating all day long. However, when it comes to deep friendships, they are few and far between. This is how I have been my entire life. I’ve only had few people that I really consider “best friends” if I were to add them all up.
I rarely remember a time when I have not occupied my entire day from morning til late night with things to do. Because of this, I have a hard time fulfilling my duty of reciprocal friendship. It’s not that I don’t want to. I actually think about friends significantly more than they know. I just have this drive that makes me do other things. This is good and bad, of course, but it’s just part of my root personality.
There are 24 hours in a day and I find it necessary to fill up all of my spare time thinking. I know it sounds crazy, but that’s what I’ve always been driven to do. I like to invent things, develop ideas, wonder why things happen or why I might be doing something in a certain way. I think this is what lends itself to me seeming to be \ being self-absorbed. I find that as each day goes by I get a stronger and stronger desire to create things and my friendships might falter if left unchecked.
I am glad that he said something because I feel that I need to allow time for friends. I really like people, which may be a surprise to some personal friends. This not only includes my real-life, but also my online-life as there are many new experiences to be had by finding new people and cultivating friendships.
More importantly, it’s Earth Day. Please plant a tree or donate to a tree planting organization. If you aren’t up for that, maybe a walk outside to enjoy our planet might be a great way to spend the day.